Comments on: Seeking Approval http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/ Indy, short for Indianapolis; Ness, short for Vanessa Mon, 02 Nov 2009 10:53:33 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Flamingo House Happenings » Thinking Blogger http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1614 Flamingo House Happenings » Thinking Blogger Thu, 10 May 2007 14:16:17 +0000 http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1614 [...] Over at Indyness there is a post about gay folk seeking approval. It’s also about a church who is “supporting gay folk”. It’s a post that I [...] [...] Over at Indyness there is a post about gay folk seeking approval. It’s also about a church who is “supporting gay folk”. It’s a post that I [...]

]]> By: SaraS-P http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1491 SaraS-P Mon, 30 Apr 2007 14:01:17 +0000 http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1491 It is difficult not to question the motives of this campaign. I get bothered by people who use a group of people to gain fame or money. Sounds like he is likely to doing both. Grrr... It is difficult not to question the motives of this campaign. I get bothered by people who use a group of people to gain fame or money. Sounds like he is likely to doing both. Grrr…

]]> By: Scott http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1478 Scott Sat, 28 Apr 2007 19:42:00 +0000 http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1478 I like the way you used the word "agenda" when discussing their "Pastor Jeff." To me, it seems he's always been about theatrics and his agenda might include getting himself on Anderson Cooper. I think its fairly transparent that's what he wants, even though a lot of his churchgoers would be MOST upset if I brought my thoughts up to them. I like the way you used the word “agenda” when discussing their “Pastor Jeff.” To me, it seems he’s always been about theatrics and his agenda might include getting himself on Anderson Cooper. I think its fairly transparent that’s what he wants, even though a lot of his churchgoers would be MOST upset if I brought my thoughts up to them.

]]> By: Jay http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1476 Jay Sat, 28 Apr 2007 18:12:52 +0000 http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1476 "Second, there are many people in this church who are desperately seeking approval. For them, that’s what this campaign is about. Not debate. It’s about “Please, please, please accept me”. I think that the church and the community needs to address this psychological state that some members of the community find themselves in." I couldn't have said it better myself. While some might call me "disgusting and demeaning" for saying such a thing, I think that reaction is defensive on their part and ignores the psychological realities within the LGBT community. People ARE craving acceptance and they will go to great lengths to achieve it. Far too many in the LGBT family are wanting someone to tell them they are "ok." If you need someone else's approval in order to be at peace with yourself, you're in need of psychological help. If that makes me harsh or "disgusting and demeaning," so be it. “Second, there are many people in this church who are desperately seeking approval. For them, that’s what this campaign is about. Not debate. It’s about “Please, please, please accept me”. I think that the church and the community needs to address this psychological state that some members of the community find themselves in.”

I couldn’t have said it better myself. While some might call me “disgusting and demeaning” for saying such a thing, I think that reaction is defensive on their part and ignores the psychological realities within the LGBT community. People ARE craving acceptance and they will go to great lengths to achieve it. Far too many in the LGBT family are wanting someone to tell them they are “ok.” If you need someone else’s approval in order to be at peace with yourself, you’re in need of psychological help. If that makes me harsh or “disgusting and demeaning,” so be it.

]]> By: Melody http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1462 Melody Fri, 27 Apr 2007 14:26:06 +0000 http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1462 I like being a lesbian. I think it's a perfectly valid and sensible lifestyle choice-- meaning it's OK whether you feel you were "born that way" or not. Having a loving, thoughtful female partner provides me with the support I need to have a family AS WELL AS lots of time for thinking and introspection and a successful career-- luxuries many straight women have to forego. I don't need anyone's permission to live this way. It makes me sad that so many gay and lesbian people feel the need to apologize for and justify who they are. There may be a benevolent over-being somewhere out there. If there is, s/he loves me just the way I am and has more important things to worry about than who I sleep with at night. If I choose to read it, I will interpret the Bible as I see fit. I like being a lesbian. I think it’s a perfectly valid and sensible lifestyle choice– meaning it’s OK whether you feel you were “born that way” or not. Having a loving, thoughtful female partner provides me with the support I need to have a family AS WELL AS lots of time for thinking and introspection and a successful career– luxuries many straight women have to forego.

I don’t need anyone’s permission to live this way. It makes me sad that so many gay and lesbian people feel the need to apologize for and justify who they are. There may be a benevolent over-being somewhere out there. If there is, s/he loves me just the way I am and has more important things to worry about than who I sleep with at night. If I choose to read it, I will interpret the Bible as I see fit.

]]> By: Katie Feltman http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1460 Katie Feltman Fri, 27 Apr 2007 13:24:09 +0000 http://indyness.wordpress.com/2007/04/27/seeking-approval/#comment-1460 I agree. Mel said something that I thought was really true in relation to these billboards in a similar discussion the other day: "I don't need the validation of the church and Bible to tell me I'm ok being who I am". I agree. Mel said something that I thought was really true in relation to these billboards in a similar discussion the other day: “I don’t need the validation of the church and Bible to tell me I’m ok being who I am”.

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